A Broken Friendship, who hasn’t had any ? There would be atleast two to three persons who we were once very close to me and now act like complete strangers when i bump into them. Well… I am writing this for those who have been affected by the loss of a close friendship. It has always been very comfortable for me to express myself through writing and I wish to share my feelings with others in the hopes that this too, will bring some kind of comfort to the broken hearts that need help in mending like mine.
The great philosopher ARISTOTLE once said Friendship is a single soul dwelling in the body of two persons. Even now when I write this blog my heart is full of sorrow and pity on myself. All the broken friendships in my life have slowly healed with time but they also left a deep scar so that in the near future I would be more careful in investing myself emotionally in a friendship. As of now, I am not a big fan of making best friends. But the greatest irony is that after all these experiences still my heart craves for new friendships and blindly trusts everyone, haha ! an emotional fool I am, as my friend Esha says.
The idea of losing a friend is always difficult, at least for me it is no matter what ever bad deeds that person has done or held against me. More over it’s very difficult to discuss this concept nobody wants to imagine life without their closest companions or peers. Yet people, beginning from a young age, gain friends almost as frequently as they lose them. And while this process of gaining and losing friends is natural one, it is still not that easy to digest the fact that someone you were once close to is suddenly gone from your life. There is no denying the fact that Friendship breakups can truly be as painful as any other breakup in this world.
The main reason for broken friendships are dishonesty and jealousy. But unfortunately jealousy is some what better than dishonesty right ? As good as it is, in my case it was always dishonesty. Dishonesty you know this is what ruins friendship. Once that trust is broken, it is hard to put back. Atleast in my case it’s impossible. You don’t want to be associated with a person who hurts you, underestimates you, puts you down and breaks your confidence. Jealousy in the other hand is.. I don’t know I find it good cause you know you don’t want to see any other person getting close to your best friend, but even then jealousy upto some point is good but not if it’s on the other person’s nerve.
I have lost several friendship throughout my brief life time, some breakups were easier than other which were really tough. As a child, dwindling in friendship was a natural thing. But as I grew older, though the friendships I made became more and more meaningful, and I found myself beginning to invest more and more emotionally. And it is with these friendships that my story begins. I have come across a variety of friends in my lifetime. But I … Divided them into two categories LOL.. and those are Givers and Takers.
All my giver friends are those that I have a symbiotic relationship with. They call me for favours, advice, or a friends company. And do the same to me when I am in need of the above. We are constantly reminding each other how important our friendship is and how strong it has turned out and that our time is evenly invested in each other. My giver friends are still in my life to this day, and they continue to expressively invest in our friendship as much as I do. Coming to my taker friends, these are the friends that left me with grief throughout my friendship with them. The call me for favours and sometimes for advise, and always seem to be busy when I am in need of them the most. They make me feel as if I am inconveniencing them at that moments, and span of a Communication only seems to reach the can you ? Will you ? Or I need you too , parts of my friendship. They exhaust me a lot, they make me feel unimportant, useless untill and unless I am useful of them. In fact my taker friends are those who have left me heartbroken many a many times.
Every time I lose a friend, I found myself in the ruins. My heart ached. I would always look back wondering where did I go wrong ? What could I have done to change the things ? But you know when I give myself some time for the ache to move out and start to mend myself back again, I realise that I was simply better off this way. I did my part to maintain those friendships, I dedicated a piece of my heart to these people I did my very best to be a good friend that my mom raised me to be. I later realise that I could not change anything about that Friendship breakups because it was not my change to make. Had these friends remained in my life or if at all those friendship continued I would have remained feeling used, undesired, insignificant and most importantly Unloved. The silver lining Of Broken friendship can’t be seen in the beginning. But it makes itself known the moment you cross paths with a true friend.
So you know the silver lining Of Broken friendship is that you are going to be okay. Some times broken friendships find their way back to each other, and sometimes they don’t and will never cross paths again. Which ever the circumstances maybe, you my friend will always learn something new about yourself. Coming to the heartache it goes away real soon and the bitter feelings will slowly fade away too. Trust me my friend one day you can look back on it as a helpful reminder of the fortune you hold among your true friends.
So at the very end I just want to say that THE SILVER LINING OF A BROKEN FRIENDSHIP is that you will …you will always come out to be a better person and stronger than you ever were. As they say friendship is like a glass ornament, once it is broken it can be put back again but it will always have cracks in it and it will never be the same as before.