Put down your phone ! Sounds familiar doesn’t it ? I bet all of us, atleast 99% of us have heard this either from your parents, better-halfs and friends many number of times. But it’s fine nowadays talking to a person face to face is something which no body does these days everyone is busy with either uploading things or liking and commenting on stuff online. Even 12 year old these days are so busy doing this that they are missing the small happy things which children of their age do. If you ask people what they can’t live without ? I am sure most of the answers will include their mobile phones.
It has become just a part of people’s personality that wherever you are let it be on the bus station, train station, airport, hotel, bathroom you see people walking with their head down looking into those 6 inch screens. It looks as if the people are in some sort of life support and would die if they won’t have their mobiles with them for a few minutes. According to recent research there are about 4 billion mobiles in use world wide and this number keeps on increasing.
I am not telling that mobiles are bad, but when you see people always clinging to it every single second it is changing the way of interaction with fellow beings. Whenever I am on my way out for something for example if I board a bus or train all the people have earphones plugged to their ears and playing loud music, I have nothing against music but imagine 8 people around you doing the same this listing to different kinds of music is just a head ache. In the early times when I used to travel to places I used to find the person sitting beside me interacting with me just because we would be sitting beside each other for the time of travel, but this doesn’t exist anymore nowadays people just board to bus plug earphones and start browsing. I consider myself lucky while traveling if the person beside me is an elderly cause they are the only once who enjoy their lives to the fullest rather than just being on their mobile.
Even in the most devoted friendships, it seems that once a common conversation between friends has now being replaced by endless scrolling through social media or funny image based sites. Our mobiles are always in our hand no matter what , it looks as if it is a magical self-defense tool which protects us from all the evil in the world. I would be glad if it did but sadly it won’t. Infact there is so much lack of mindfulness that we have become so irrevocably immersed in our digital lifestyle, prioritising the virtual word over anything else. I mean is it really that important to Instagram your dinner, rather than actually savoring it and sharing your impression or having some common dinner conversation with person sitting next to you ? I mean who are you trying to make jealous !!
Mobiles get in the way of our life so much that , it is impossible for a person to make or show wholeheartedly devote their attention to the moment they are a part of or to the person whom they are with, resulting in losing may moments of wonder that are unique and are never to be live again. Why pay 2000 rupees to see your favourite band, if you are going to watch the whole event through your smartphone camera anyway ? We have become so obsessed over how our lives look to others through digital glass, that we forgotten how significant it is to live, invest, and relish in the present moment and the fact that we are in reality.
At the very end I am trying to tell why choose to communicate through social media, rather than enjoying a friends company ? Or even better to do something together, other than sitting side by side staring at your mobile displays? Inevitably, excessive use of smartphone drives us away from one another, and we only choose to communicate impersonally and for superficial matters. Some how the emotions such as bonding and intimacy no longer appeal to us, making it not it difficult but impossible to build any new and sincere relationship.
This friendship day, let’s get back with those who have become the part of our life. Let’s get into to a conversation with a hot mug of coffee with your friends, in the old stereotype way. Let’s look up maybe some other friend might too. Let’s stop wishing them through your mobile while you can actually go to their place and give a warm hug thanking them.
Happy friendship day